You need to make a conscious decision.accept him as a lying cheating bastard who probably wont change or deal with it however you see fit..I have a dont tell policy..I aint interested in what his up to when hes not home.but embarrass me or humiliate me in public and there will be hell to pay. Infidelity is a sign of no respect for the spouse who is hurt by it, the relationship and the cheating husband has absolutely no respect for himself. Do you have someone to rely on for help and support? Different, young (mid 20s), easily disposable. And she said she thought so to until one day she asked to borrow his phone real quick, and he walked away for a quick second. He then walked off into another room. May you be blessed with a peace beyond all understanding. I feel like I will never be able to fully get past this until he admits I was not crazy and he was having an affair. Im afraid to leave because of what will happen next. Hi I am not married, but i have been in a relationship for almost 4 years now. Sometimes, what looks like it might be cheating, is not. (An hour? I didnt know how to deal with my pain at first because his hurtful behavior was something I had never experienced before. The reason Ive accused him to begin with is because things just dont make sense. ( son saw her coming out of the hotel room-claims his son was drunk so he is mistaken) I asked him to explain the pictures he said she was alone and he probable felt bad and chatted with herThe pictures depicted look like they were a couple////lies bother me, the truth would be so much easier to deal withhow do I get the truth? I'm Laurie, creator of Uprooted She Blossoms and author of Growing Forward When You Can't Go Back. Hi Stephanie- it seems to me that you really dont have a question for your husband; you seem certain that hes cheating. I feel like if I ask for his password to check his Facebook he will immediately know what I want to look for and delete any evidence if there even is any. He has told me he cares about her because she gets into trouble (she is a real gem married, has a coworker boyfriend and has been through six men at work already). When hes with me, hes distant. if that doesnt work, and hes really sneaky, get a keylogger for computer or his phone .. you have a RIGHT TO KNOW !! Of course, he always says that hes with his male friend who is 37 years old. All kinds of things predict infidelity, Milhausen said. I got married 2 yrs ago. Lol. half the comments of women here say I think my man is cheating on me, so I decided to invade his privacy, spy on him, and find out if I can really trust him. He admitted after dropping me off at the airport, he went to work on his day off, listened to her voicemail to retrieve her number. It sounds like youre very confused and upset I know I would be! If he wasnt happy, he should have suggested marriage counseling for you both rather than starting a relationship with someone else. But thankfully I have already ideas about cheating! Some CASH and even a prepaid debit card (he cant trace), your important documents, somewhere you can go if you dont feel safe, someone who wont give your hideout away. I felt alone almost all the time. This is not a religious debate, and if you are considering replying with such, dont waste your time. Much prayers and good luck!! So, on yesterday, I called him while he was on his way to work to ask him a question and when we finished talking I said I love you. but he got angry and emotional the last time. He changed all his passwords to Facebook and email and he always deletes everything off his phone. You need to understand that you deserve better and cut your losses before you are 30 years, 3 kids and 3 grandkids in. Hes a piece of garbage.we get it. If you are in a relationship like this one, trust me, save yourself and leave as soon as you can. Hes only told me he loves me twice in the entire year and it was more at the 3 month mark, not so much anytime in the past few months. Please help. It finally evolved to me confront my husband about them being emotionally attached to one another(since that was obvious especially on her end). Hes not very affectionate and he can go months without having sex with me. Ive always have a gut feeling that my husband has cheated on me, but Ive never been able to prove it. Kindly advice. He goes out and gets drunk. He now uses a bactrack breathalyzer everyday after work. He said he never kissed all the way to sex with her. You cant cheat and hide it forever, you will get caught. but yes it is wrong. Why do you have this girl on your skype who you met long ag, the same time with me? Im just not sure what to do about any of it. Lying husbands actually tell the truth, cushioned in lies. M sorry but, I dont spy on anybody so I dont think so! Ive been willing to work, but am growing impatient and feeling more and more like I should just leave. It turned out to be one of his ex-girlfriends and she had something she wanted to share with me. I axcept, the other lady then got married to other man. If you have evidence that they cheated, they will usually blame their actions on someone else. I dont know if your husband is lying about cheating, but there certainly hasnt been alot of honesty about what hes doing. He is ALWAYS ACCUSING of different things but wen i ask him he gets mad and defensive. I refused to abort and he would kick me on my stomach during pregnancy. Let me know. I do recognize that he has been the one who has had to take over all chores like cooking (which he did before), cleaning, laundry, etc. He got VERY ugly, snapped, etc., Im no fool tho & KNOW if he really cared as hed claimed hed have never spoken to me like that, I snapped back at him & went off on him! It pisses me off more than ever but once again, its because I cant have him but I dont think I would even want him, bc of how he is lying to himself and his wife. I told him if he didnt call me in 5 minutes I would call the number. Signs your relationship is over, plus help deciding how to move on after a breakup. There is hope. Jan, If you happen to see this Id LOVE the link to that motivation video. He makes it sound like I am crazy and tells me not everything is about me! Am I crazy? I dont know what to do, please help me, thanks. he also gets upset if i wont let him go hang out with her by himself. Its almost like he is bipolar *he is a marine and has been over seas* but that doesnt give him the right to drink or treat me like that. Im not always rite and I know that.BUT THIS I DO NOT DESERVE!! Its better to start over than stay in a marriage that contains suspicion of affairs and mistrust. Up to this day he hasnt told me where he was. Does he pick fights with you over the little things? Yesterday I catch my husband cheating on me. Any advice would be appreciated. help me sarah. couldnt answer why she sent him pictures. May you know the truth. Good luck & be safe. Nov 21,2013 I found out my husband was cheating on me. Few studies on infidelity have gone beyond exploring demographics, said Robin Milhausen, a professor and sexuality researcher in Guelphs Department of Family Relations and Applied Nutrition who conducted the study with Kristen Mark and Erick Janssen of Indiana University. Someone please give me some advice??? He said when he woke up he asked her and she said they did but didnt believe. I apologize if I have offended any of you. ive been there with husband texting girls, emailing. So is he cheating? Its so difficult when we suspect a guy of lying about cheatingthe least he can do is be honest about it! So, that whole time I felt so insecure about her for no reason. And some will continue to cheat unless caught. So please, for your sake and the sake of your fertile eggs, look for the red flags and DO NOT MAKE EXCUSES for his bad behavior. Are you ignoring red flags? If you have tried and cant get through, see if you can get him to marriage counseling. It is more natural to plant a seed into one woman and watch her give you what only she could produce. Anyway, I confronted him because it made me feel uncomfortable. Thank you so much for your time maam. If youre a believer, perhaps you could talk to a pastor or someone at church. I am not buying things I dont need. Why are you wasting what is left of your youth on a man who is interested in other women? Its like someone took something from me. His answer was he went out of town to get her car fixed and that he spent the night at a rest stop. And talk to him. if not ask your self that question is he realy commited to you ? He subtly gets onto me for every dime I spend that he thinks is not necessary. We get sick ourselves being with someone like this because we are codependent. Dont ever underestimate your partner. I pray for wisdom, clarity, insight, and connection with people in person who can help you find and face the truth. I did not mind since i was in pain after we both recovered we went to see the pyscologist and from that day he pretend to change. and their father dont want to change.. please help. Get yourself over to the weights and make your body stronger. He quickly shielded her away from me and they left short after that. What alarmed was that he was caring about all these womens lifes and didnt care about mine life. I think you know the right answer. My daughter just gave us a beautiful grandchild, however her husband has not been interested in her physically since she got pregnant. I found out he had been cheating on me while we were courting and funny enough he never stopped.each time i confronted him ,he came out very defensive and made me feel like i did not know what i was saying. We started dating other people for about 2 years. When he is home, he sleeps all the time. i wrote in my dairies that GOD PUNISH ME MORE WHEN YOU SEE ME WITH THAT MAN. I hope it helps, and again offer my apologies for not being able to give you personal help. I was right but he said he needed to get away from everything. o.k. I have had suspicion of my husband cheating or trying to so I put a tracker on his phone. I was so deviated. So im going to try and sum up my problem. pls anyone help me reply me. 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